Often, parents, in their desire to give their child the best, try to actively develop him in many areas of life at once. It happens that after school a child is forced to attend several clubs, courses, sections, and work with a tutor. However, not all such activities may be of interest to the child. But even if he shows interest, then Excessive physical and mental workload contributes to the accumulation of fatigue which can lead to fatigue. How is this pathological condition characterized and why is it so important to prevent its development?

Overfatigue and the mechanism of its development

Adults call conditions that are not so overfatigue, because they do not think about the true meaning of the term. This often refers to extreme fatigue, which is a subjective sign of fatigue. It never occurs to adults that a child who spends all day looking at pictures or playing can become tired, since they do not see the difference between fatigue and physical fatigue.

Fatigue is a psychophysiological state associated with the performance of any activity and leading to a temporary decrease in its effectiveness. This state is natural for the body. Moreover, it may even be useful.

Good to know: mild fatigue trains the body, forcing it to use its reserves, develop capabilities, and increase performance. But excessive strain on reserves during prolonged fatigue has a negative effect.

The state of fatigue is a kind of a signal that it is necessary to reduce the intensity of the load or temporarily cease carrying out activities.

Subjective sensations during fatigue include discomfort, muscle tension in the limbs, decreased concentration, apathy, slower reactions and speech, irritability and others.

But there are also objective signs that indicate trouble, such as the inability to perform basic actions, rapid breathing, heart rhythm disturbances, changes in blood pressure, and the accumulation of lactic acid in the muscles. Changes are also observed in blood tests, including the number of white blood cells, red blood cells and hemoglobin increasing, and platelets falling.

Overfatigue develops against the background of physical, intellectual and mental exhaustion. In the first case, this is expressed in a violation of muscle functions, such as a decrease in strength, accuracy, slower reaction speed, and lack of coordination in movements.

Good to know: if a child studies or plays sports to the limit of his capabilities, this will inevitably lead to overwork, especially if he has inadequate or insufficient rest periods that do not allow him to fully restore his performance.

With mental and mental fatigue, difficulties in concentrating and weakening of concentration are observed.

The development of overwork is accelerated by unbalanced nutrition, psychological tension and stress (hostility and ridicule from peers, constant expectation of insults, feelings of inferiority, fear of a test or exam, fear of punishment), lack of physical activity with high mental stress, physical work that significantly exceeds the capabilities of a child. body. Thus, Overwork can result from either a single overload or chronic fatigue.

After reading the above, one might get the impression that everyone from preschoolers to the elderly suffers from overwork, and it is not typical for infants. However, it is not. Infants may also be susceptible to this condition, if their daily routine is disrupted, that is, when the baby sleeps less than he needs. There are many reasons for this, from ill health to noisy neighbors.

Taking certain medications and having chronic diseases can also lead to fatigue. So, this disorder can develop:

• if a child suffers from colds more than twice a month and cough suppressants or other medications are used to eliminate symptoms,
• if the baby gets sick in transport, but he needs to get to school by bus every day and he is forced to take medications to eliminate the feeling of lightheadedness,
• in cases where the use of antihistamines is indispensable,

• teenagers can independently use oral contraceptives or use substances that affect the nervous system, such as sleeping pills.

Among the painful conditions that can lead to fatigue are sleep disorders, heart failure, long-term infectious diseases, hormonal changes, cancer, pathological conditions of the respiratory system such as asthma, emphysema and others.

Symptoms of fatigue in children

Healthy children are always energetic, they are ready to overcome all obstacles on the way to understanding the world around them or in order to realize their idea. They behave completely differently when they are unwell. Overfatigue is one of these conditions and is manifested by disturbances in many organs and systems of the body. Depending on the severity of these manifestations, it is customary to distinguish between first, second and third degree fatigue.

Only subjective signs indicate first-degree fatigue. Paradoxically, feeling tired causes children to have difficulty falling asleep, and sleep itself does not bring the desired rest. The child cannot relax and fall into a deep sleep phase, tosses and turns a lot and often wakes up from nightmares or other painful dreams. A baby who has long been unaccustomed to napping can sleep again at lunchtime. As a result of drowsiness during the day and insomnia at night, the daily routine is disrupted.

Characteristic manifestations at this stage of overfatigue are also spontaneous fluctuations in body temperature, decreased reflexes, etc.

Moreover, some children may lose their appetite, while others, on the contrary, begin to eat everything in a row, so for some, overwork manifests itself over time as rapid loss, and for others, excessive weight gain.

Children in a state of overfatigue do not cope well with any mental and physical stress, are constantly distracted, cannot concentrate on completing the task at hand, it is difficult for them to sit in one place, so they often change their position or carry out movements unusual for them (biting their nails, tugging at their hair, picking at their hair). nose), lose interest in previously favorite activities that require them to be attentive.

Good to know: the performance of such boys and girls is significantly reduced, productive periods are very short and in order to achieve their goals they have to strain the remaining reserves of the body.

A child in the second stage of overfatigue gets tired very quickly, bursts of performance are observed only immediately after waking up and resting, the reaction to stimuli is slow, even a minor event can cause a surge of emotions in the child, a change in mood. The baby may cry or, on the contrary, become bitter. In response to even minor muscle tension, limb tremors or spasms may occur. A child can feel weak and lethargic not only after physical activity. Muscle fatigue also accumulates during nervous fatigue, be it a difficult exam or a tense conversation.

Objective symptoms are added to the subjective manifestations of fatigue at the second stage. At the same time, the baby’s face takes on an unhealthy appearance., the eyes may be red, the skin is pale and swollen, with bruises under the eyes, he may experience attacks of nausea and vomiting, fainting, increased sweating; in teenage girls, irregular menstrual cycles and weight loss are observed. Children often complain of headaches and poor health, which are the result of metabolic disorders, spontaneous changes in heart rate and blood pressure.

In case of overwork of the third stage, the subjective manifestation is complete apathy, and objectively - extremely poor health. In this case, the child completely loses his ability to work and the performance of any actions occurs with maximum tension of the body’s reserve forces. A slight load at this stage of overfatigue can provoke a breakdown. when the baby stops performing even basic manipulations.

It should be said that the manifestation of overwork in preschool children and in adolescents has some differences. So, for the former, the first signs of fatigue are whims, the kids become restless, it is difficult to calm them down and call them to order, while the latter are more likely to show excessive aggression and rudeness, which is evidence of discomfort. But in all children, without exception, against the background of constant physical, mental and mental stress the immune system weakens, which makes them more susceptible to various kinds of infections, they begin to get sick more often and for longer.

Important: if the child is not given timely help, he may develop various mental and neurological disorders such as neurosis, hysteria or neurocirculatory dystonia, somatic diseases such as peptic ulcers or hypertension.

In addition, because overtired children become distracted and inattentive, their risk of injury increases.

Treatment of overfatigue in children

Treatment of overfatigue must begin when its first signs are identified, without waiting until it progresses to the second or third degree. The degree of development of fatigue syndrome should be determined by a doctor based on the clinical picture. In addition to the pediatrician, the child should be shown to a neurologist, cardiologist, osteopath and some other specialized specialists.

Based on the data from their examinations, treatment for fatigue should be prescribed.

Advice: the fundamental principle of therapy for this deviation is quite simple to formulate. It consists in reducing all types of stress and completely eliminating the influence of factors that led to this condition. In principle, this may be enough for the child to cope with first-degree fatigue, especially if he is provided with the conditions necessary for proper rest. This regimen should be followed for at least 2-4 weeks. The child should return to normal activities gradually

. This may take him a month or more.

When treating second-degree fatigue, the key is to completely remove yourself from daily activities and eliminate the influence of stressors for a couple of weeks. At this time, special restoration techniques and measures are used. Third-degree fatigue can be treated exclusively in a clinical setting using medications. Some situations in which the child is at the initial stage of overfatigue do not require adjustment. The cause of loss of strength may be new living conditions.

For example, he went to kindergarten or school for the first time, which radically changed the rhythm of his life, and his workload increased. Naturally, at first the baby may get tired out of habit, but as soon as the adaptation process is completed, he will again become the fidget that his parents are so used to seeing in front of them.

Important: if the condition progresses, then you cannot ignore it, you should try to reduce the level of stress.

Many parents believe that the benefits of many additional activities and training are extremely great and worth all the efforts of their child. However, among the causes of mental disorders in children, lack of time for their own desires and needs ranks high.

Other disorders that result from excessive loads include visual impairment and diseases of the gastrointestinal tract.

Important: in order to prevent overwork in their children, parents, firstly, should reconsider their priorities and decide what is more important to them is education and good grades or the health of their child. Secondly, they need to take a close look at their child, because what one can do is an exorbitant burden for the other. The approach to completing tasks is also individual.

Some people find it easier to start with the hardest activity, while others prefer to do the easier ones first. Even twins are different from each other, let alone children who are born from different parents, under different circumstances and grow up in different conditions. Therefore, in classes, as in food, you need to know when to stop.

Determining this very measure and finding out how attractive this or that business is for a child is actually not as difficult as it might seem at first glance. If a student, upon returning home, shares his impressions with delight in his eyes and talks about his achievements, then this means that he enjoys additional classes. The same applies to the little ones.

Good to know: all early development methods or other activities are good as long as they bring the child joy from learning something new.

When he begins to yawn and has difficulty sitting still, this should serve as a signal to an adult that it is time to change his occupation. So, on average, the duration of a lesson or other type of activity with a preschooler is no more than half an hour, although in early preschool age (3-4 years) children can concentrate on performing one task for no longer than 15 minutes. True, if a child is extremely passionate about something, then he can study for much longer. But hobbies can be of different kinds, so how much time the baby will spend in one activity or another depends on the prudence of the parents. For example, from sitting for a long time at the computer (static voltage),(dynamic work). Therefore, even if the baby screams that he is not tired at all, because he does not feel it, it is reasonable to limit his time spent in front of the monitor screen. You can develop a child’s interest in those activities to which he is indifferent by creating some kind of bonus system, and not necessarily financial.

Good to know: it should be noted that physical fatigue is practically not typical for children. They instinctively stop active play activities. Much more often, children suffer from mental (nervous) fatigue.

That’s why it’s so important to alternate physical and mental work. This will provide some restoration of strength and allow you to withstand the load, but, of course, will not replace proper rest. At the same time, you need to start from the fact that A student's sleep duration should be at least 10-11 hours. In order to prevent overwork, it is also important to create a favorable atmosphere in the family, provide the child with the necessary vitamins and beneficial microelements, and maintain comfortable conditions in the room where the baby is resting (temperature +20-22 degrees, humidity 60-70%).

Causes and signs of fatigue in children. Video

Very often, a child sleeps poorly because parents do not know what is normal for this age. The inability to see a child's tiredness is one of the typical problems with children's sleep.

If your child is not sleeping well, you may not know when to put him to bed.

Why is it necessary to recognize signs of fatigue in a child?

Small children get tired very quickly.

Overtiredness increases the level of cortisol (stress hormone), which in turn affects the baby's sleep. Depending on the degree of overfatigue, the child may resist sleep, not sleep at all, wake up frequently, or sleep in short naps. Signs of fatigue vary from child to child and age to age. But, nevertheless, if this is your first child, you can first try to see the typical behavior of tired children. There is a concept of the so-called “window” - a period of time when the baby is tired enough to fall asleep, but not yet too tired. If we miss the window, we enter the overwork zone. Young children may only be awake for very short periods of time, making it very easy to miss a window.

Average norms of wakefulness by age:

• Newborn - 20-45 minutes
• 5-8 weeks -60 minutes
• 9 - 12 weeks - 1 hour 20 minutes
• 4-5 months - 1 hour 45 minutes - 2 hours
• 6-8 months - 2-2.5 hours
• 8-9 months - 3 hours
• 10-15 months - 3-4 hours
• 15 months - 3 years - 5 hours
• 3-5 years - up to 12 hours (depending on availability of daytime sleep)

Signs of fatigue in newborns and children in the first months of life:

• Sudden movements of arms and legs
• Makes strange squealing noises
• Mood changes: whims, crying
• Searches and demands breasts
• Pulls his ears
• Clenches his fists
• Arches on his arms
• Sucking fingers
• Poor focus

Signs of fatigue in children from four months to 1 year:

• Becomes clumsy, falls out of the blue, cannot coordinate movements
• Capricious for any reason
• Requires constant attention
• Crying
• Clings to mom, hides face in chest, shoulder
• Refuses to eat
• Rubs eyes
• Loses interest in toys

What should I do if I see signs of fatigue?

For children under one year old, it is very important to be able to recognize signs of fatigue, as this protects good daytime and night sleep. Therefore, as soon as you understand that the child is tired:

1. Reduce activity levels and sensory stimulation (noise, light).
2. Start your bedtime ritual.

What if I don’t see any indicators of fatigue?

There are children whose fatigue is extremely difficult to recognize. If your child is like this, then focus on the norms of wakefulness by age and start preparing your baby for sleep 20-30 minutes before the end of this interval.

Don't expect your child to "fall asleep on his own if he wants to." Very often, children do not sleep well precisely because they are overtired. Take control of the situation: take care of your baby's sleep from a very early age!

Can behavioral problems be caused by lack of sleep?

In children over two years of age, obvious physical indicators of fatigue disappear. But other behavioral manifestations appear that suggest fatigue. That is, a three-year-old child is unlikely to actively yawn or rub his eyes: this is only in case of extreme fatigue. But he can start to be capricious for any reason, for example.

Some indicators of potential sleep deficiency for ages one and a half years and older are listed.

Read more about the connection between behavior and sleep.

Of course, it is important to maintain children’s interest in learning using modern information technologies. You just need to not overdo it in this matter and remember that mental and physical health are more important than all knowledge combined.

A child living in the 21st century is faced with a huge information flow from an early age, the sources of which are most often television, the Internet, school, kindergarten, books, parents and teachers. Of course, broadening one’s horizons and acquiring new knowledge has a positive effect on a child’s intellectual development. However, prolonged exposure to a saturated information environment may be unsafe for him. Why? As I write these lines, my 7-year-old daughter is sitting next to me at the computer and also deftly presses the keys. She already has her own, albeit toy, educational computer, on which she can solve logical and mathematical problems, train her memory, reaction speed and much more. This is wonderful - it is easier for a child to master the school curriculum; thanks to intensive mental development, he is able to perceive more complex information about the world around him. But at the same time, I see and understand very well that interest in the computer and TV can so absorb a child that he will not notice anything around him. This danger is not in scientific books - it is before my eyes.

When a child is 6-7 years old, we can and must manage the situation; when a child is 13-14 and older, it will be more difficult to do this. Entering the virtual world is a real threat to the mental and physical health of modern children. If a child, with the TV and computer turned off, says that he is bored and has nothing to do, it means that we did not help him find and love alternative activities: reading, sports, walks or something else.

Today, for example, Sunday, soft wet snow has fallen, and it’s time to go make a snow woman. Forgetting about the Internet and TV, my daughter and I first took shovels and cleared the paths, and then in the clearing we made a wonderful snow beauty, whose hair was made of branches and moss. The mood after that was wonderful. Flushed and happy, we came home, and my daughter enthusiastically began writing a small book “about sculpture,” accompanying it with original drawings. This little book, made with passion, is now kept in my desk.

Forming interest in something in children if you don’t have it yourself is a pointless undertaking. "Let's dance to the music!" - I tell the child on the next weekend. "Hooray! Let's!" - the child answers joyfully. There are so many opportunities when a child is 6-8 years old!

In the modern world, when demands on the level of education and intellectual capabilities of children are constantly increasing, the child is at the mercy of our parental ambitions. The child has not yet begun to walk and talk, and we strive to educate him in early development groups. Later, the study of foreign languages, computers, choreography, swimming pool and much more are added. It is not surprising that nowadays the vast majority of children do not want to go to school. Even before school, their lives were scheduled minute by minute; there was no time left for games and children's creativity.

The son of my friends was a little over 4 years old when his childhood ended. All week he was obliged to attend clubs: acrobatic, drawing, speech development, dance, etc. Of course, after the first week, full of useful activities, a real hysteria happened to him, he refused to go anywhere or do anything. He's loud

screamed, threw things around and didn’t hear the adults at all. Mom tried in vain to explain to him that “everything has been paid for,” and therefore he must go. For a child, such a load is unbearable! The mental reserves of a preschooler are still very small, and therefore, due to overload, fatigue sets in, which in turn entails all the signs of bad behavior: whims, irritability, increased excitability, etc.

Fatigue is caused not only by intellectual overload, but also by a decrease in the duration of night sleep, disruption of daytime sleep, and insufficient exposure to fresh air.

Here are the norms for the duration of classes, sleep and walks for preschool children.

Duration of classes in preschool age

At 3-4 years old, the duration of classes should be 10-15 minutes, at 4-5 years old - 20 minutes, at 5-6 years old - 20-25 minutes, at 6-7 years old - 25-30 minutes. Of course, if a child is passionate about something, he can do it for much longer. If it does not harm his health, then there is no need to interfere.

Sleep duration in children

Children's stay in the fresh air

Walking is the most effective form of relaxation. Walks are especially important for preschool children: in winter, at least 4-4.5 hours, and in summer, if possible, all day.

The smaller the child, the faster he develops fatigue. For example, in an infant, staying awake for 1.5-2 hours leads to fatigue even without vigorous activity. Fatigue occurs most quickly in a child in response to monotonous activity; 5-year-old children get tired faster than 6-7 year olds.

From the age of 5-6 years, children begin to actively master the computer. Unfortunately, recently there have been many families in which children, from an early age, spend most of the day at the computer. Naturally, they develop a computer addiction, and if the mother refuses to turn on the next cartoon, the child becomes aggressive and uncontrollable. Of course, computer games for preschoolers are an interesting and exciting activity. It gives the child a new way of acquiring knowledge, allows him to independently study various phenomena, and directly participate in what is happening on the screen. However, working on a computer causes a lot of stress and quickly leads to fatigue, which adults do not always notice. Children, however, also do not notice fatigue. The child’s eyes are no longer looking, his back is numb, and he exclaims in joyful excitement: “I’m not tired!” It is clear that this has a calming effect on parents, especially since the child is busy and does not bother anyone.

Physiologists have long proven that computer games are among the most strenuous activities compared to other types of computer activities and are considered more tiring than solving mathematical problems.

Moreover, in Japan and England, children who are addicted to computer games from an early age were diagnosed with a syndrome of “video game epilepsy”, manifested by headaches, prolonged spasms of the facial muscles, blurred vision, and the appearance of negative character traits.

The time of onset of fatigue may vary not only in different children, but also in the same child in different cases; Depending on his condition, mood and other reasons, fatigue occurs at different times.

What signs can be used to determine if a child is tired:

Increased distractibility;

Frequent change of posture;

Unusual movements of the arms and legs (shaking, tapping, etc.);

Unpleasant facial expressions (grimacing, tics);

Uncontrollable outbursts of emotions (screaming, crying, jumping, etc.).

What can you do to prevent fatigue?

To prevent overwork, it is necessary to establish a child’s daily routine, completely eliminate lack of sleep, reduce workload, properly organize a change in mental activities and rest, and increase time in the fresh air. It is necessary to alternate mental work with physical exercises, and after classes provide children with a sufficiently long rest.

Frequent fatigue leads to overwork and deep behavioral disturbances, so it is important to recognize the causes of this condition in time and help the child.

The maximum duration of work on the computer should not exceed 10 minutes for children 5 years old, for children 6 years old - 15 minutes. It is also important to know that the visual system of children during preschool and primary school age is intensively improved. Since it is computer activities that cause the greatest visual fatigue, it is necessary to perform the following exercises.

"Brooms" . Keep your head straight. Blink, without straining your eye muscles, on a count from 1 to 10-15.

"Far close". Children sit freely near the window. The presenter first names a distant object, and after 2-3 seconds - a nearby one. Repeat 6-8 times.

"Owl". Close your eyes, without straining your eye muscles, on a count of 1-4, open your eyes wide and look into the distance on a count of 1-6. Repeat 2-3 times.

"Dress up the Christmas tree". When performing this exercise, the reference points for turning the head and body are toys, fairy-tale characters, etc. They are hung in different parts of the room. For example, a game object can be a Christmas tree that needs to be decorated. Children should look for the toys and animals needed for this purpose throughout the room with their eyes. The Christmas tree is placed or depicted in the center of the wall or slightly lower. Toys are hung in the corners of the room, under the ceiling, so that there is a need to turn your head in one direction or the other. The presenter asks to observe the following conditions: “Stand straight. Turning only your head, look for toys in the room that could be used to decorate the Christmas tree, and name them.” The pace of the exercise is arbitrary. Duration - 1 minute.

"Catch the Bunny" . Children sit on the carpet. The presenter turns on the flashlight and lets the “sunny bunny” go for a walk. Children, having “caught” the “bunny” with their eyes, follow him without turning their heads. The game lasts 45 seconds.

Based on materials from the book by E. I. Shapiro “How to awaken a child’s interest in learning”

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Veronica Solovykh

Judge whether I'm right or wrong.
My parents and grandmother live 30 km from us. There is a car. Every weekend they come to our city. Either to the theater, then to visit relatives, then to some exhibition, then just for a walk, a cafe, a shopping center there... that is, the distance is not a problem at all. They used to visit us periodically. Well, once every 2-3 weeks somewhere. They cuddle their granddaughter for 2 minutes, drink coffee and continue to hang out. Leaving me dirty cups. Okay, I'm not offended. They still help - sometimes they bring diapers and onesies. OK.
Those. Basically, my husband and I take care of the child alone. More precisely, the husband is at work all day, he is with the child in the evening. And me during the day. The child practically does not sleep during the day. Well, there’s no way to get it done. Sleep regression, teeth are still emerging... That is, sometimes I can’t calmly eat, wash, tidy up the house, and, excuse me, go to the toilet, because as soon as I disappear from sight, I immediately or...
OK. The last time my parents and grandmother came was on March 8th. As it turned out, the mother had a fever, but the grandmother (old people are like children) was capricious, “why don’t we go?” and they arrived. And the child became infected and fell ill. Then from her I. Then my husband.
I calmly, but still told my mother that if you are sick, there is no need to come. The child was 4 months old at the time. There is really nothing to treat. A river of snot, fever. Well, why the hell is this??? Why couldn’t the visit be postponed for a week? What kind of tears from grandma out of nowhere?! What kind of whims? How baby...
OK. They haven't come since then. Apparently they were offended, although I asked, they said no.

So here it is. As I said, the baby doesn't sleep. She already weighs 8 kg. It's hard to carry. Plus, after pregnancy I have a hernia. I'm getting tired. I just want to sit in silence and drink hot tea. I think many will understand me. Grandma calls sometimes. I physically cannot always answer. Then I feed and the child just begins to close his eyes... Of course, I hope that he will fall asleep and do not answer the phone. Then we swim. Something else. Yes, I can even just, excuse me, sit on the toilet. Or wash a child's bottom. You never know... no. She starts calling non-stop until I answer the phone. And when she picks it up, she starts scolding me like a schoolgirl, “WHY DON’T YOU pick up the phone! I CALLED!”
The desire to talk disappears, of course. My parents stopped visiting now. Although in the photo on social networks I see that they regularly visit our city. I can only walk to the nearest store, that’s all my entertainment))). The mood spoils, of course. But I don’t complain to anyone, I don’t express dissatisfaction. I take care of my responsibilities and do not force my child on anyone. It's just me and my husband who do it.
So my mother calls, I start with complaints, “What’s going on??? What’s wrong with your mood??? You’re not calling! You’re not writing! I’m calling you!” When should I call? Sleep regression, teeth have appeared... the child does not sleep at all. I'm not rude, I speak dryly and only to the point... Lack of sleep and fatigue take their toll.
I asked, “Do I have the right to be tired? Do I have the right to be in a bad mood?” The answer is yes. The mother ended the conversation and hung up. Now she is offended, and I feel guilty.
I will repeat that I never made any complaints to them. This is my child, I gave birth to him for myself, and I am taking care of him myself together with my husband. But parents can help, they can find one hour a month to come, take a stroller and walk for an hour in the park with their child. For now, I’ll eat in peace at home, or wash the floor, and wash myself, and maybe just take a nap. And if not, if you don’t come, don’t want to, or can’t, then why don’t you call me and why don’t I write...? Whenaaa?? And no questioning why she didn’t pick up the phone! I couldn't, that is.
I have something to do. I think so.
By the way, I grew up with my grandparents. My parents only took me on weekends. Like they had to work, but there was no time to look after me and my studies. In short, it turns out that their parents were involved with their child.
In general, judge... Maybe I'm wrong. Or maybe it was like this for someone. Am I obliged to rush to the phone and report like a first-grader, why didn’t I pick up the phone or why didn’t I call?? Obliged to make excuses for your bad mood and fatigue??

Sorry for the whole sheet... It's just boiling

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Ekaterina

The situation is this: my daughter just recently turned 15, she’s an excellent student, she usually shares everything with me, and I just recently found out that she already has some kind of relationship.
In general, since she is in 8th grade, a parent meeting was held regarding further certification, etc., not the point. Of course, in addition to this, the conversation was about children. The class teacher gave out information that in her daughter’s class there were already people dating boys and girls. Among them, she named my daughter, but she is dating a boy not from her class, and not even from parallel, but from 9. I became interested, and after the meeting I decided to approach the leader and ask about this boy.
It turned out that he also studies with her, he didn’t study very well for the time being - until later, when my daughter and her boyfriend started dating, he began to improve in 2 class subjects (Russian and literature), maybe in some other subjects, even this the teacher didn’t know, but she found out that he had smoked before and also stopped when they started dating.
What is the question, how to talk to your daughter about a guy about this, especially who had bad habits? I’m worried that maybe, God forbid, I might end up in the wrong company. And is it worth having such a conversation at all?

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Elena Podosenova
Lecture-consultation “Children’s fatigue”

Children's overtiredness- one of the reasons for a child’s bad behavior. And we teachers should pay special attention to this. At one of the parent meetings, I spoke on this topic in order to educate parents about what consequences this condition can lead to and how it can be avoided.

Good evening dear parents!

Today I would like to focus your attention on the most frequently asked question of parents of children: “Why does a child begin to behave badly?”

There are several possible answers. These include age-related crises, a past or early illness, a sharp change in parenting style, and severe stress. But more often the reason for a change in a child’s behavior is simple - fatigue, overwork...

What is this fatigue?

Fatigue is a physiological condition that can occur as a result of excessively long or monotonous activity that exceeds the performance of the child’s nervous system.

The absence of fatigue and overwork in a child is indicated by deep sleep, good appetite, cheerful, cheerful mood, and active behavior. Or the preservation of features inherent in a child in a calm, alert state (features of falling asleep, appetite, behavior inherent in this particular child).

Portrait of a psychologically healthy child:

active,

independent and friendly

helpful and inquisitive,

proactive and self-confident,

open and empathetic.

If a child is often tired, his immunity weakens, mental reactions change and, as a result, he has a passive mood and a depressed appearance. To avoid overwork, it is necessary to follow a regimen, but not the one described in books, but a regimen that is suitable specifically for your child. To develop such a “person-centered” regime, you need to be able to listen to your child, notice in time signs of fatigue, hunger, sadness, etc. This is not difficult for attentive parents to do.

Signs of fatigue, fatigue: can manifest itself differently for everyone, but here are some of them:

Depressed mood;

Slowness in movements, lethargy, indifference, sadness in the eyes, sometimes yawning;

Difficulty falling asleep;

Some anxiety or whims in behavior, sometimes causeless crying;

Impaired coordination of movements, especially of the hands;

Aggressive actions that arise that are unusual for a child: scatters or takes away toys, screams, falls on the floor, etc.;

Excessive activity may occur that is unusual for a child: running aimlessly, jumping, pushing.

I repeat that each child has his own, individual signs of overwork and fatigue. A child can sit in a corner and look “inward”; circles appear under the eyes; Some children begin to kiss and hug too emotionally with loved ones.

Among reasons for overwork the most common: excessive stress on the nervous system (stable attendance at a preschool institution where the child is provided with mandatory requirements, constant presence of the child in a crowded environment, disruption of the daily routine (missed daytime sleep, for example, insufficient time in the fresh air, too hot and stuffy indoors , noise, the need to wait a long time (queuing at the clinic, poor lighting, etc.

First, the child gets tired, then gets tired (the above signs appear, and then overwork follows - this is already a painful condition that requires psychological, pedagogical or sometimes medical assistance, which can lead to developmental problems (fears, nervousness, pain, anxiety, persistent loss of appetite, etc.). d.) Therefore, it is necessary to pay special attention to this process.

Of course, every parent, in his own way, strives for the child to grow up cheerful and active, independent and friendly, helpful and inquisitive, proactive and self-confident, open and empathetic - that is, above all, psychologically healthy. If you really want this, then...

To avoid fatigue and overwork, adhere to the following rules:

Naturally, it is necessary to monitor the condition of your child and respond to his complaints;

Satisfy the child’s need for movement, communication, learning new things (visit children’s centers, theater, circus, go on visits, go for walks, but at the same time take into account the individual characteristics of the child so that everything is normal);

Follow the regime;

Sleep helps restore strength, so it is advisable to save daytime sleep on weekends;

Provide plenty of vitamins for your child;

Walk often, especially in good weather. Fresh air always has a positive effect on a living organism;

Ventilate the rooms where the child sleeps and plays more often;

Offer new toys and games. Play together!

Alternate between calm and active activities;

Dose watching TV, videos, computer games. These activities will be beneficial if the child is not constantly occupied with them, but alternates them with outdoor games;

It is necessary to provide the baby with timely rest;

And it is also very important to relax together in the summer. We all work, all year long. By the end of the year, we are not only tired of the work routine, but also exhausted, both morally and physically, and are really looking forward to vacation, when we can relax, mind our own business, and, finally, pay due attention to our child, which he so needs. . A child, just like an adult, also gets tired and tired. And from the children's team, and from the requirements that are provided in the preschool institution. Therefore, the child needs to be provided with a change of activity for some time. Strive for more variety during this time. Be a good example for him!

Thank you very much for your attention!

We wish everyone health and emotional well-being!

Memo to parents

Particular attention should be paid to children who have started attending school and whose lives have changed dramatically (moving to a new place, adding a new family member, etc.). The duration of habituation (adaptation) to new conditions and the appearance of fatigue depends on many reasons:

From age. The younger the child, the more difficult it is for him to get used to the changed situation, the faster he gets tired.

From temperament. Melancholic and choleric children get tired quickly, while phlegmatic children take longer to adapt to new conditions.

From the state of health. A physically weak, easily excitable child gets tired faster; the same applies to children who have recently been ill or are starting to get ill.

From the presence or absence of experience in various conditions (how often he communicates with peers, goes to visit his grandmother, friends, is in public places: circus, theater, store, etc.).

From the contrast between the environment at home and in kindergarten (different regime, requirements, nutrition). The more differences, the more difficult it is for a child to get used to it.

From the difference in the relationships of adults at home and in kindergarten. If at home the child is allowed everything, he is always listened to and persuaded, but in kindergarten the teacher is strict, demanding, and can shout and punish, then problems with adaptation are inevitable.

From the ability of others (parents, teachers) to explain, encourage, praise, reassure in a timely manner.